Type A Parents
This type of parents train their own to live independently. That is, instead of their kids depending on them for emotional support, psychological or financial assistance, they teach them to live on their own.
This is much less costly and in the long run, it is in the best interests of both the children and their parents.
For example, imagine a Type A parent recognizing that his son has an extremely high aptitude in mathematics but poor with verbal skills.
What do you think he will do?
Of course, he will not start by attacking the school, neither will he begin by blaming the teachers, rather he will attack the problem.
First he hires a professional tutor for his son at home and at each night during dinner, he asks the son to define three words taken from the SAT study guide.
Upon hundreds of tutoring sessions and dinner from home, the child is trained to be self-confident and his verbal skills as well improved.
Type A parent most often than not, teach their kids how to lay bed, cook, wash cloths and sometimes engage them in volunteer activities in their local community to assist those in needs.
Children from Type A parents finds it easier doing things for themselves and for others because they are used to living life independently. And so they can naturally help themselves, their parents and the society.
Type B Parent
Type B parent are the ones who train their kids to be dependent on them, others or the society.
That is their kids depend on them for emotional, psychological and financial support.
Type B children grow to become adult hyperspenders, needing cash subsidies during their young and
middle adult years.
Training kids this way is much more expensive and in the long run, can affect both the kids and the parents.
Take for example,
A Type B parent who has been told by a teacher that his son is deficient in writing and related verbal skills.
How do you think they will respond?
First, they transferred their child to another school. The verbal deficiency problem failed to improve, however, so the father began writing his son’s papers and till this day, he continues writing his son’s papers for him.
In another instance, a couple with a ten-year-old daughter noticed that, their girl was very shy and will rarely speak with anyone unless she is prompted.
Again, what do you think they will do?
Concerned about her daughter, the mother wrote a note to her daughter’s teacher, asking that the child’s seat be moved from the front to the back of the room, since her daughter felt more comfortable there.
According to the mother, kids in front were too often asked questions by their teacher.
The teacher did not make any changes in the seating so the mother called the teacher that afternoon to protest.
Feeling slighted, the mother immediately transferred her daughter to another school meanwhile the problem still persist.
What can you make out from these two scenarios?
In both cases, the parents had trained their kids to be dependent on them.
If your son or daughter has a deficiency in school make a commitment to help him or her overcome the handicap but never try to let them see you as their saviour.
Type B parent usually pamper their kids, they do their homework or assignment for them and they are driven to expensive schools or sometimes even sent abroad for studies.
They don’t do any household chores, food is put on the table for them, and their plates are always removed and washed by parents or house maids.
Unlike Type A kids, children from Type B parents finds it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being help by others. And so they can’t help themselves, their parents or the society.
Sadly, they abandon their parents in their old age in their bid to acquire the world.
Now which type of parent are you?
A Type – A parent or a Type – B parent?
Let me put it in another way.
Which parent type do you aspire to become?
Being a parent is a role that can bring you great joy and happiness but at the same time can come with some challenges.
Nurturing your child and watching them grow and develop into their own unique person can as well add meaning and purpose to your life.
But one important thing about parenting that is worth noting is that; you need to look after yourself well so you can do your best for your children and family.
Reduce pampering and unnecessary help you offer your children.
Let them grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength.
Let them face the truth and the realities of life.
Teach them to grow to become independent adults.
Teach them to respect others
Teach them to develop confidence in themselves.
Teach them to be discipline by disciplining them.
And in the end you will be happy and rewarded for being such a great parent.
Again, what type of parent are you?
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